How much control do we have over our future?

How much control does one have over the future?

By Aditi Kulkarni

This is a question which has been asked by the readers of this blog several times.

The truth is that the future changes when we change. The lines on our hands reflect this change. The shape of our fingers and hands changes as well. Changed lines and hand shapes mean a changed person = a changed character = a changed destiny. Our future hinges on who we are. If we change, our future changes with it. 

How much our future changes depends on how much we 

change. It depends on the individual, his/her desire to change and their willpower. The changes can be small or they can be big, life-changing. Thus, it's not just the minor lines which can change, but also the major lines, particularly the Fate or Saturn line.

In this post I wrote that the hands are a reflection of you; not vice versa which means:

Your future depends on who you are and how you behave, not on the lines of your hand. Lines do not control you or your future. You do.

And from this post: Can Palmistry can predict future events, I wrote: 

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...the Human Will is what prevails.

And in this post about Stars, Crosses, Symbols and Superstition, I have said 

...the lack of mobility, fewer career choices, less individualism and a reluctance to believe that the future can be changed meant that people changed less and their lives took predictable paths.

This is not the case in the modern world. Today, with our myriad career choices, high mobility, industrialisation and urbanisation, life has become quite unpredictable.

Let's return to the question of exactly how much control we have over our future.

We know we cannot control our birth and early childhood. We did not cause our birth – obviously. This also means that the inherited personality (and the probable future that goes with it) is not in our control. It is a matter of the roll of the dice. I do not consider this to be fate, but chance. This means that by chance some people are dealt a good hand and others a bad hand.

It is up to us whether to make the best of a bad hand or fritter away the good hand.

During our infancy and early childhood, our fate is largely in the hands of the caregivers. However, even during this period the way our inherited personality interacts with the environment influences people’s behaviour towards us, and this in turn influences the developing personality.

At this time (in early childhood) the changes in personality (and therefore our future) largely happen without a conscious effort to change but as we grow older and gain an awareness of the world around us, the consequences of our actions become clearer. This is the time when the most productive people stop blaming the environment (or parents) and take life into their own hands and try and fix mistakes if any. These people have a better chance to improve upon their future. These are people who grit their teeth and move forward. Sensitive, moody people can be crushed by a difficult environment.

Those who keep heaping blame on circumstances and caregivers will make little effort to change themselves. Maybe they like playing the victim. Or perhaps they have an implicit belief in Destiny. Whatever the reason, their life will play out as shown on their hands. The hand can change for the worse too. Apathy and lack of focus can make it worse.

If an individual makes a conscious effort to change, it will impact the future. How much the future changes depends on how much change the personality undergoes. Is it to do with getting rid of negative personality traits? Is it a re-alignment of goals? Is it about learning a new skill? Is it about getting rid of emotional baggage? Is it about coming to terms with reality?

Usually, changes in character happen over time, gradually, and the lines also develop slowly. I have seen the fateline on a person's hand grow as he neared the age where it ended. 

For the hand to show the change, the changes have to be completely new and about plans not considered before. It has to be a paradigm shift. The lines start to change as soon as the seed for the change is planted in the brain, and at times this happens even before the conscious mind is aware of it. For example, a traumatic event can set off a chain of thought but the actual focused thought on how to move forward can happen several years later. The lines will start to develop earlier.

As adults, there is really no limit to our human ability so there is no limit to how much we can change. But changes in personality require great effort. The effort can be likened to taking steps to correct a medical condition.

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Let us take the simple example of being overweight. Step 1 is to acknowledge it. Not surprisingly many people gloss over their weight, ignore it, pretend that it's okay to be like that or blame it on their genes or some medical condition. Nowadays there are even groups which support each other for being overweight. They don't want to admit that it affects their health.

Accepting that one has a weakness is hard, and admitting to having taken the wrong path is even harder. But without acknowledgement, there is no possibility of moving forward. Unless we do the hard work of changing our personalities, the direction of our lives will not change.

Step 2 is to do. Overweight people need to go on a strict exercise and diet programme and it is a life change that we are looking at. Not a quick fix. Help can always be taken from friends, family, elders or even a therapist if needed.

The strength of the Will is paramount. Individuals with a strong Will, self-control, self-confidence, flexibility and a practical mindset, find it easier but even those without these qualities can change. With motivation, it can be done.

The key word here is motivation. Without motivation, people don’t change. And their future won't either.

(All photos published in this post are copyrighted to me)

You might also like: Death and hand reading; Stars, Crosses, Symbols and Superstition in hand reading; Can Palmistry predict future events?; Why do you want to know your future? Or instead, you can read this collection of posts on the unreliability of predictive palmistry.

Or read The Myth of the Marriage Lines; Love, Marriage and Relationships.

More: Palmistry Explained, Palmistry Myths and Misconceptions and how palmistry can help you lead a better life or Ten Frequently Asked Questions About Hand Reading (Palmistry FAQS).

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