Tuesday, April 15, 2014

How much control do we have over our future?

How much control does one have over the future?

Hands graphic
By Aditi Kulkarni

This is a question which has been asked by the readers of this blog several times.

The truth is that the future changes when we change. The lines on our hands reflect this change. The shape of our fingers and hands changes as well. Changed lines and hand shapes mean a changed person = a changed character = a changed destiny. Our future hinges on who we are. If we change, our future changes with it. 

How much our future changes depends on how much we 
change. It depends on the individual, his/her desire to change and their willpower. The changes can be small or they can be big, life-changing. Thus, it's not just the minor lines which can change, but also the major lines, particularly the Fate or Saturn line.

In this post I wrote that the hands are a reflection of you; not vice versa which means:

Your future depends on who you are and how you behave, not on the lines of your hand. Lines do not control you or your future. You do.

And from this post: Can Palmistry can predict future events, I wrote: 

Sketch of a hand
By Nita Jatar Kulkarni
...the Human Will is what prevails.

And in this post about Stars, Crosses, Symbols and Superstition, I have said 

...the lack of mobility, fewer career choices, less individualism and a reluctance to believe that the future can be changed meant that people changed less and their lives took predictable paths.

This is not the case in the modern world. Today, with our myriad career choices, high mobility, industrialisation and urbanisation, life has become quite unpredictable.

Let's return to the question of exactly how much control we have over our future.

We know we cannot control our birth and early childhood. We did not cause our birth – obviously. This also means that the inherited personality (and the probable future that goes with it) is not in our control. It is a matter of the roll of the dice. I do not consider this to be fate, but chance. This means that by chance some people are dealt a good hand and others a bad hand.

It is up to us whether to make the best of a bad hand or fritter away the good hand.

During our infancy and early childhood, our fate is largely in the hands of the caregivers. However, even during this period the way our inherited personality interacts with the environment influences people’s behaviour towards us, and this in turn influences the developing personality.

At this time (in early childhood) the changes in personality (and therefore our future) largely happen without a conscious effort to change but as we grow older and gain an awareness of the world around us, the consequences of our actions become clearer. This is the time when the most productive people stop blaming the environment (or parents) and take life into their own hands and try and fix mistakes if any. These people have a better chance to improve upon their future. These are people who grit their teeth and move forward. Sensitive, moody people can be crushed by a difficult environment.

Those who keep heaping blame on circumstances and caregivers will make little effort to change themselves. Maybe they like playing the victim. Or perhaps they have an implicit belief in Destiny. Whatever the reason, their life will play out as shown on their hands. The hand can change for the worse too. Apathy and lack of focus can make it worse.

If an individual makes a conscious effort to change, it will impact the future. How much the future changes depends on how much change the personality undergoes. Is it to do with getting rid of negative personality traits? Is it a re-alignment of goals? Is it about learning a new skill? Is it about getting rid of emotional baggage? Is it about coming to terms with reality?

Usually, changes in character happen over time, gradually, and the lines also develop slowly. I have seen the fateline on a person's hand grow as he neared the age where it ended. 

For the hand to show the change, the changes have to be completely new and about plans not considered before. It has to be a paradigm shift. The lines start to change as soon as the seed for the change is planted in the brain, and at times this happens even before the conscious mind is aware of it. For example, a traumatic event can set off a chain of thought but the actual focused thought on how to move forward can happen several years later. The lines will start to develop earlier.

As adults, there is really no limit to our human ability so there is no limit to how much we can change. But changes in personality require great effort. The effort can be likened to taking steps to correct a medical condition.

Magnified palm lines
By Nita Jatar Kulkarni

Let us take the simple example of being overweight. Step 1 is to acknowledge it. Not surprisingly many people gloss over their weight, ignore it, pretend that it's okay to be like that or blame it on their genes or some medical condition. Nowadays there are even groups which support each other for being overweight. They don't want to admit that it affects their health.

Accepting that one has a weakness is hard, and admitting to having taken the wrong path is even harder. But without acknowledgement, there is no possibility of moving forward. Unless we do the hard work of changing our personalities, the direction of our lives will not change.

Step 2 is to do. Overweight people need to go on a strict exercise and diet programme and it is a life change that we are looking at. Not a quick fix. Help can always be taken from friends, family, elders or even a therapist if needed.

The strength of the Will is paramount. Individuals with a strong Will, self-control, self-confidence, flexibility and a practical mindset, find it easier but even those without these qualities can change. With motivation, it can be done.

The key word here is motivation. Without motivation, people don’t change. And their future won't either.

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  1. Does the position of the hand-lines change with time, as per their actions/attitudes? I thought lines were fixed.

    1. if u got perfection in spiritual sadhana our palm lines will change.....

  2. Ma'am, One of my friend lost good amount of money (near to 30 Lakhs) in the form of theft, since then his perception towards life had changed i mean he doesn't care too much on the materials. This change had happened beyond his control does this change reflects in the hand? If so which part of hand (lines, shape).

  3. DI, Yes they definitely change and sometimes quite dramatically!

    Hari, I cannot comment on the example as I do not know how materialistic he was before.
    But what I can say is that major changes are reflected in the major lines and also in the shape of the fingers. If you are asking me where does the quality of a materialistic attitude show, well it shows on the position and setting of the headline, its shape, the shape of the hand, the length of the ring finger relative to the middle finger, the length of the phalanges, the length of the mercury finger and also which part of the hand is more developed, the bottom, the middle or the top.
    Nothing can be ascertained by reading one sign. The more intense and deeper the changes, the more it is reflected, and in more places.

  4. Thanks for the reply Ma'am. Can I assume from the above blog that a palmist role is more or less is the role of a psychiatrist. Because, so far my understanding is concerned future is uncertain and people hardly able to digest the fact. This is where people consult palmists or astrologists to come over their shortcomings and not a psychiatrist (majority). In your opinion who can be efficient in providing motivation to a depressed individual to live or a stubborn to change.
    Many practitioners have their own theories and theories evolving and will evolve unless the rationalists become irrational about this science. I think the person who tried to enlighten the human race with this study had held a key ingredient with him and without which the study can be inaccurate and provoking enthusiasts to invent theories in this science. Hope your book will be out soon with a meaningful judgment of this science.

  5. Hari, a hand reader can simply point out the weaknesses and strengths of character but when it comes to making changes in the life, the person has to do by himself. He can take the help of a counselor and friends and other supportive people. If he or she is stubborn to change and there are serious problems, then I am afraid nothing can help except a psychiatrist.
    True, people come to palmists astrologers etc because of an uncertain future but I am afraid most do not do so to try and overcome their shortcomings. They want to know that good things will happen for sure and thus some palmists and astrologers can take them for a ride. On conversely an inept astrologer or palmist can frighten the person by giving silly and dire predictions.

  6. Nita, just to ask, there are so many astrologers whose predictions have come true. In our own family, we have seen predictions come true, and sometimes these predictions were made at the time of birth! Astrologers are - even though if not always - able to predict the future to a certain accuracy. Are they just guessing intelligently or do you think there is anything else to it?

  7. I know people who go to astrologers. I myself have gone to them regularly at one time! My conclusion is that astrologers are right about 50% of the time. That was the case with me and people I know. So it is an intelligent guess or not even that! They know human nature very well.
    The way to check it is check the astrologer's reading of the past. Here too they are likely to be correct 50% of the time or maybe 60% if they have guessed their client right, specially if the client is a typical one.
    When it comes to hand reading the past trends are correct 99% of the time, if not 100%.
    In any case there is no rational reason to connect planets and human life events. It makes no sense.At least to me it doesn't.

  8. ive noticed you...have emphasized this point quite a lot ..change.. the need to change ..need to evolve...but i still believe the the basic intent to mould a person's life..will is kinda programmed in oneself.....i ve changed i continue to change...i continue to get a ingrained sense of my psychological set up day in day out almost obsessively...kinda like you...i believe u changed a lot too didnt you....developed focus developed sense of purpose ..self respect..its a continuous battle..well the sensitive imagination ...doesnt help either...but i wonder what triggered it though.the thought process to turn onto itself...digging in deeper into life mysteries....one cannot really be sure ...if it all there is a reason..may be its just an accident..people dont always change for good...and it has kinda got complicated as times have moved on...also one thing... its a sill question what is a enlightened human being...is it just a fancy term or does it realy mean anything...i know a lot of people dealt with it...its kinda redundant .but i noticed u used that term to describe few people u read here...because i belive u draw that conclusion from combination of saturn/venusian enhanced qualities...but what does it mean ...at the core level...do super humans exist was cheiro any less enlightened than say a swami vivekananda...or vice versa..i know u belive in true intuition exist and u have perhaps met these people.but how much are ordinary human beings capable to trancscend to some different dimension though i use the word very loosely here...or it just a figment of their imagination ..see i believe .some humans are able to harness these abilities..but to interpret it is a diffrent skillset altogether..and life is too real or at times too much in your face...to give fuel to these feelings..

  9. Thank you for your thoughtful comment Amandeep. You said "but i still believe the basic intent to mould a person's life..will is kinda programmed in oneself" and that is a very interesting observation. Yes, I agree that change is programmed in our subconscious mind, the intention to change, and that is precisely why the passive hands and active hands are different from a young age. The programmed change does not change lines. The hand changes when a radical new thought is injected into the person and he or she makes a very strong effort in some new direction. At times sudden unforseen circumtances can make this happen.
    And no I do not think Cheiro is any less enlightened that Vivekananda. It was just that Chero's profession ensured that people did not recognize him as an enlightened or spiritual person.

  10. Ma’am,
    Is interest to learn palmistry can be read in hands? If so can you provide any signs on the hands where one can recognize a tendency to learn?

  11. No. According to Cheiro there is but I have not found it to be so from my experience.
    Eagerness to palmistry is found on all sorts of people. I think it is obvious. Is an interest to learn English seen on the hands? An interest to learn biology? Or an interest to learn table tennis? Or an interest to learn painting? No. It can never be. Its simple logic.

  12. Ma’am,

    Can you define skill set for palmist? I hope at least there should be one 


  13. An ideal palmist or hand reader should have Interest in human beings, and care for people. An interest in human psychology is a must. Anything else like intelligence, hard work etc is common to all professions.

  14. If position of planets at the time of birth didn't matter, the art (and science) of astrology couldn't have survived so many centuries (I feel). Many people take important decisions, even today, after consulting their horoscope. Marriage, for example.

    Here, there are calenders that note good time, bad time, etc. within a single day! I have not cross checked it to that level, but there seems to be certain times in a particular day when we are doing the most simple thing and still face many obstacles. At certain times, even difficult things get easy solutions (automatically).

    I guess you would have heard of the seven and a half year difficulty period (saade saath, yezhra varusham) that is supposed to occur every few decades, in our life. In my case it was predicted accurately.

    So, maybe there are some general attributes that recur in one's life (or happen in cycles) and our ancient sages had mastered it. But we are losing all that info/knowledge? Not that it is mandatory to know, but that knowledge might enable us to hone our philosophy more appropriately?

    Destination Infinity

  15. DI, I respect what you say but belief is something that either one feels or does not feel. I just do not feel the faith in Astrology. I used to believe in it but today I do not because I have seen that predictions by astrologers in the family and friend circle are mostly half true or not at all. But this is my own personal experience and others may have different experiences.

  16. Ma'am, you had already confirmed that major lines change. When a hand is read as a whole including lines, shape, tips, finger print patterns is there a chance that their can be a change in the type of hand, tips of the fingers too depending upon the nature and extent of change. can a spatula tip change to a conic tip. Have you observed such changes in the cases which you had studied? Kindly explain

  17. Hari, I have already answered this question but I will explain further. The amount of change is what influences the changes in the hands and deep changes will be reflected in the hand and finger shape. The basic or instinctual personality as shown by the shape of the hands and fingers is harder to change, but it can change. And yes I have seen the shape of the fingertips change and also finger shapes changing, particularly that of the thumb. The shape of the palm changes the most in the first 2-3 years of life.


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